Finding ‘the one’ can be difficult at the best of times, but especially so if you’ve got children in tow. However that doesn’t make a quest for love impossible, you just have to change your approach a little to help you find someone that’s right for you and your family. So if you’re a single mum or dad who is looking to get back on the dating scene, here are a few tips to make your adventure fun, exciting, and hopefully fruitful.
Set Your Goals and Limit Expectations
Not every single parent is looking to find a new mum or dad for their children. If you’re simply looking for a bit of fun, or someone who also has kids, then that’s ok too. But try to work out exactly what you want from your dating journey before you set off. And don’t get your hopes up on every person who you go on a few dates with. It can be very confusing for children if they meet a lot of new lovers who keep coming and going, so try to keep your dating on neutral territory until you meet someone who you think is ‘the one’.
Be Open About Your Children
Be honest from the offset with any dates that you do meet so that they know where they stand. That doesn’t mean introducing yourself as ‘Hi I’m Jane, I have two kids and you look like awesome father material’. However don’t make the mistake of putting off telling them until further down the line. After all, if they don’t want to get involved with a family person, then you’ll have wasted your time on someone who isn’t worth it. Although if you are just looking for some no strings attached fun, then it’s not an essential talking point anyway.
Find Love in the Right Places
We’re not saying it’s impossible, but you’re not very likely to find a family-loving, caring and reliable man on a boozy night out in town. Meeting new people can be difficult when you have kids for several reasons. Firstly, finding the time to get out and socialise when you’ve got the children to look after can be a challenge, unless you have family and friends who are willing to help out. Secondly, when you do get out there, it’s a whole different ball game seeking out someone suitable.
That’s where online dating comes in. By simply logging into your FreeAndSingle account, you can search and connect with local singles when the kids are busy playing or tucked up in bed. Find fellow single parents or exciting new faces who really give you butterflies, and arrange a date when you decide they could be a good match. With our free dating service, it’s never been easier to find love as a parent!
We know that the kids come first for any parent, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t make a little time and loving for yourself too, does it? Online dating is a great way to get back on the dating scene whilst keeping on top of the busy role of being a mum or dad. And the best thing about it is that at FreeAndSingle, it’s absolutely free!
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