Your new date ticks all of the boxes – interesting, a respectable job and a polite manner. But is there such a thing as being too perfect?
Welcome to the strict world of the perfectionist. At first this can be a tempting proposition; well groomed, charming and a strong desire to succeed are all great traits. But if he or she is so perfect, why aren’t they already taken?
Single perfectionists will often ‘shop around’, dating multiple people without ever making a choice. This is often due to a belief that someone flawless will be just around the corner. By watching out for these warning signs at the dating stage, you can avoid potential disappointment further down the line.
The Stern Critic
He may casually suggest that you would look better in a girly dress than jeans. Or, she may comment on the unruliness of your facial hair. Alarm bells should sound if you receive any kind of negative comments on your appearance within the initial ‘getting to know each other’ stage, as this is often a strong sign that your date has controlling traits. No one should be made to feel like they should change – how boring would it be if we were all the same!
You’ve been dying to see the new Tarantino film for weeks, but instead you end up drinking in their favourite bar. If this sounds familiar, chances are you’re dating a perfectionist. Your feelings and preferences are often pushed to the side in favour of their plans, because obviously their ideas are better…
Relationships are all about give and take. If you feel like your ideas aren’t valued, it’s probably a good idea to quit while you’re ahead and choose someone who is more open to suggestions.
Despite genuinely looking forward to a date, they cancel at the last minute. Either they have a deadline at work that must be met or they cannot deviate from their nightly gym routine.
Whatever the issue may be, this is usually due to a self-enforced standard – straying from this routine would equal failure. If you find yourself playing catch up with someone who always has more important plans, it’s a sure sign that they are never going to be satisfied in a relationship.
As the old saying goes, if it looks too good to be true it probably is. But it’s not all doom and gloom. The perfectionist can be great for a casual fling, as long as you’re aware that it may never lead on to anything more serious. Having a strong mind and self-discipline isn’t necessarily a bad thing – in moderation. But dating a true perfectionist can leave you feeling undervalued and unsatisfied. So if you spot any of these signs, proceed with caution.
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